So…my boyfriend chooses my outfit…that should be an interesting challenge…or maybe not.
Roger and I have been together for about three years, now. We met ice skating; he’s now my coach and partner. When I started to blog, he agreed to snap a few photos. During the course of our photo shoots, we made a discovery: Roger takes amazing photos. We choose the locations together, I assemble the outfits while he contemplates light, shadow, composition and all the technical stuff that one does with a camera. He sometimes offers opinions about my clothes, but generally isn’t a fashion guy—he leaves that to me. So when I asked him if he’d like to do style challenge, he wasn’t his usual enthusiastic self.
As we talked about the making of this post, he confided that he really didn’t like challenges that made guys look bad doing things they didn’t really know how to do in the first place. For him, it was never about the little details I obsess over, but the “overall gestalt” as he puts it—like color, and silhouette, as well as the confidence of the woman.
Rather than sending him off to the mall with my credit card, I asked him to chose his favorite looks from my closet.
Look 1: Ice Skater girl. We met ice skating, so the first look he chose was black leggings, a tank top and an athletic jacket. There aren’t a lot of interesting clothes dedicated to ice skating, we tend to wear leggings and jackets—often black, so to mix things up, I am always on the hunt for interesting jackets and interesting shirts I can layer.
Roger chose this look because he fell in love with me at the ice skating rink, so while mundane to me, my skating clothes hold memories for him of our early days getting to know one another, and falling in love. I discovered that guys tend to be sentimental that way.
Look 2: The Red Sheath. One day, early in our dating, I met Roger for lunch. It was around the holidays, and I had come from a large formal meeting. I was wearing a classic red sheath dress, simple black pumps, my signature gold bracelets and diamond studs. He seemed a bit flustered when I walked over and sat down. Although he didn’t say much at the time, I suspected I had made an impact—and I had—because the red dress is an all time favorite of his.
There’s no question, guys love red, studies prove it over and over. There was a time I was terrified to wear red, afraid of standing out and attracting too much attention. In my new chapter, it’s about challenging that. I love my red dress as much as Roger does.
Look 3: Flair jeans and classic button down or turtleneck. Roger came of age in the 1960’s when girls wore lots of flair jeans, turtleneck sweaters or classic button down shirts. Any time I put together a simple look with my flairs, his face lights up—he just loves it. I find the look easy going and comfortable. There’s nothing better than looking pulled together and comfortable at the same time; that make us all shine.
Roger has given me the gift of his support and love. I feel so blessed to be with someone who really wants to be with me and celebrates it. I sometimes say, “you spoil me!” And he says “no, I cherish you.” We all deserve to be cherished, first and foremost by loving and nurturing ourselves and second, by those who are closest to us.