As the days grow closer to my daughter’s going off to college, I find there is so much I have yet to tell her. Learning lifeskill has become my primary focus. I have taken to discussing a general life topic every few days with the hopes that she will remember tidbits from our talks to help guide her. I fear time is running out. Soon she will be on her own. As I sense the clock ticking, I have become more aware of the things she doesn’t know.
We’ve talked at length about sex and relationships, but little of money, how to get s job and budgeting. Although we have cooked and baked together, I discovered that she doesn’t know how to plan meals, or shop efficiently for food. This summer, we have been talking about these things but I’m not sure how much she hears.
As she learns to drive, we discovered she struggles to remember routes and doesn’t know how to read a map at all. All our road trips are now taken up with learning these things.
Where has the time gone? I wonder. Have I done right by her? Have I been a good parent, a good guide, have I done a good job preparing her for life? That is, after all, my job.
I worry more than ever about her decisions. So far, so good, I am happy to say. But decisions are important, after intention, decisions set our course into the future. The decisions she makes and doesn’t make are important–not fatal, but important.
There are many things that come our way in life, things we just have to roll with, things that require improv and a smile. There are the dark things, the hard things, the deep things. For these, my hope is that she is strengthened by our love and support of her, she finds courage in the many things she has over come so far, that she is connected to her inner source so as not to be buffeted by the ever changing winds.
Meanwhile, we find ourselves collating a tool box and making sure she knows how to use its contents, making a recipe book filled with easy favorites, teaching her how to make and keep a budget, teaching her how to plan and purchase a weeks worth of meals and how to read a road map.