Do you think you don’t know how to Set Achievable goals? Have you ever wondered why you have achieved some of your goals and not others? Have you ever wondered what stands in your way when it comes to living the life of your dreams and the life you currently live, assuming that you are not completely happy with the life you are living?
I wasn’t until I reached mid life and crisis, that I began asking tough questions about my life choices. I began to see that living the life you dream of entails clarity, courage and a willingness to change and learn. It starts with questions. The deep kind, the kind that make you a little uncomfortable. I asked myself what I really wanted in my life, and how I really wanted to live. I saw how others had adversely influenced my decisions and beliefs about myself and my capabilities. I had to get over that, I knew, if I were to do the things I wanted to do. Thus began a growing understanding of goal setting and success that I have been experimenting with since.
1. To be truly and deeply successful, one must pursue his/her own unique dream. This may play out in the work place, among friends and loved ones, in the arts, sciences, or business world. The main point here is that sometimes it is not how we make money to support ourselves that fulfills the dream, it could be through a variety of other interests and activities that one’s life dream in fulfilled. For example, though I had a relatively successful business career, I have felt most fulfilled so far by raising my daughter.
2. The unique dream may shift and offer a wide and diverse range of life experiences, and may not seem “safe and secure” to others. Nothing kills the soul more than the artist trapped in an accounting job because someone said that getting a CPA certification would make them wealthy and successful. I was strongly encouraged to get a “good corporate” job and then retire, but I just couldn’t stomach another day of it after my daughter was born.
Key Point: Try to avoid living other people’s dreams–such as getting the “right” job, get married, have kids–I chose not to have my daughter until I was 39. All around me people were pressing me to marry and have children. I am so very glad I waited until I was ready. Some of my life’s biggest disasters occurred when I attempted to please my parents or followed someone else’s path.
3. Sometimes things that seem like goals and dreams aren’t. Such as wanting lots of money. Why do you want the money? How much is a lot of money to you? What are you willing to do in exchange for the money? What will you do when you have it? What does money represent to you? Just wanting a lot of money is a nebulous dream–it is the why and how that make it an achievable goal.
4. Once you have honed in on your goal, you must not allow things to stand in your way.
More on that next time!